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December 9, 2013

Dear Empty-Nest Mothers - Signed, Young Moms Everywhere

Dear Empty-Nest Mothers~

We realize that some have brushed you to the side...made you feel as if you are no longer appreciated...or your wisdom is no longer needed, but not all of us feel that way.

We need you....

...but sometimes we feel as if we've ticked off a handful of you...ticked you off in a big way.

We realize that maybe you didn't have a whole lot of help when your kids were young...We understand that times are a little different these days...We get that you may feel frustrated by us at times, but we really do need you and value a relationship with you.

We do not need you to huff and puff because our stroller is in your way. We need you to smile and hold the door for us.

We do not need you to provide your criticism advice. We need you to ask us how you can help.

We do not need to hear how you did things when your children were little. We need you to tell us we're doing a good job.

We do not need to hear you complaining about your husbands. We need you to teach us how to pray for and encourage ours.

We do not need to hear you talk about how overwhelmed you are by your housework. We need you to offer to come clean our bathrooms.

We do not need to hear about your gourmet recipes. We need you to bring our family dinner one evening.

We do not need you to share your thoughts on breastfeeding, potty-training, or discipline. We need you to support the methods we've chosen for our children.

We do not need you to complain about the lack of volunteers in the children's department at church. We need you to serve in the nursery so we can worship alongside our husbands.

We do not need you to roll your eyes when we're out to eat with our families. We need you to help us clean up the mess.

We need you to remember...We need you to remember what it was like...what it was REALLY like...not the parts you like to remember...but the ugly moments, the difficult days, the exhausting times that lead you to frustration like you've never known. We are all very different, but please find tangible ways to encourage us - we crave it, and oftentimes, one act of kindness from you can make our day.

We promise to say thank you...and we will also walk away saying, "There's someone who gets it. There's someone who understands. There's someone who has given me hope that I can do this and I will survive."

Young Moms Everywhere

Note to Self: In 20 years, pull this letter out and remember...and then find ways to encourage the young moms in my path. (Titus 2)

As a mom, it can be difficult to carve out time to spend meditating on God's Word, but if you are like me, you have learned how very crucial it is to being able to serve your family the way God intended. Over the past few years, I have tried to be intentional about finding ways to naturally build this in to our family's routine. Here are a few ideas that have worked well for me and maybe you'll find a tip that will encourage you in your faith walk.