If you've been following along with me over the past several months, you know that this third pregnancy has brought with it some new experiences...some first-trimester yuckies that were very different from anything I experienced with my first two babies.
Morning Sickness? How about 24-7 plain-old yuckiness!
Morning Sickness? How about 24-7 plain-old yuckiness!
Just after sharing Our Pregnancy Announcement, I began to chronicle my first trimester:
A Diary of How I've Been Feeling - Part 3
A Diary of How I've Been Feeling - Part 4
Journaling my thoughts and feelings...and trying to find the humor in the yuckies was therapeutic for me, and I'm so glad I kept a diary of sorts.
Over the course of those beginning months, I learned a few things.
Well, I guess I should say that I was reminded of a handful of things that I think God has been trying to teach me for quite some time.
(Needless to say, I am not a quick learner.)
What I Learned from Morning Sickness
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. When I am sick, I want my hubby and I want my mommy! Period. While other people's thoughtfulness is appreciated, when a gal is sick, there are very few people she feels comfortable calling on to hold her hair back as she leans over the potty. I didn't like crying and saying things like I can't do this! or I need you to come help me! but when you feel your crummiest, sometimes it's simply best to admit that you need support...especially when you have two other little ones running around the house wondering if their mommy is ever going to get off the couch again.
A Diary of How I've Been Feeling - Part 4
Journaling my thoughts and feelings...and trying to find the humor in the yuckies was therapeutic for me, and I'm so glad I kept a diary of sorts.
Over the course of those beginning months, I learned a few things.
Well, I guess I should say that I was reminded of a handful of things that I think God has been trying to teach me for quite some time.
(Needless to say, I am not a quick learner.)
What I Learned from Morning Sickness
I am not indispensable. During this time, my hubby pitched in even more so than he already does around here. He truly kept things afloat. Meals weren't always made the way I would've made them. Laundry was not always folded and put away in the way I usually do it. Outfits for little ones were not always put together in the way I would've chosen. But you know what? Everything was taken care of...and while it was taken care of differently, it was taken care of well.
The house will not crumble if I don't do my chores. Routines, organization, etc. all keep things running smoothly around here. However, when a gal is laid up on the couch for weeks and weeks, a good bit of that goes out the window, and amazingly enough, when I started to feel better, the house was still standing.
Cartoons will not kill my children. You know how I mentioned that I was on the couch...for weeks? Well, so were my kids. They hung out on the couch, too - watching cartoons. Lots and lots and lots of cartoons. Because I typically try to limit screen-time, I felt terribly guilty about this new routine of ours. I really tried to pull myself together. But I just couldn't. My little ones suddenly knew every cartoon character that is currently popular, and I felt like the worst mom ever. Couple this with the fact that they were eating large amounts of goldfish crackers that the grandparents had brought...and I felt like a total failure...but they lived, and so did I.
Throughout this third pregnancy, I have done a little comparing of my pregnancies. It has been fun to look back and see the similarities...and the differences. Let's start with hubby's reactions to two lines on the stick...
Throughout this third pregnancy, I have done a little comparing of my pregnancies. It has been fun to look back and see the similarities...and the differences. Let's start with hubby's reactions to two lines on the stick...


all great things you've learned and congratulations. My hubby helped too and it was great practice for him when our son came. Asking for help was a BIG thing...but so needed.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you have a great support in your husband. All these things are temporary and sometimes God uses new life to teach us a few things about letting some things go. Soon you will be adjusting to a new baby around again. What a great way to look back and remember how you got through it all. Have a great day.
ReplyDeleteI'm happy to hear I'm not alone - my house is falling apart right now, too! But not because of morning sickness... we have a newborn and a toddler so we're trying to figure out our 'new normal' and it's a little chaotic. Best of luck with your pregnancy!
ReplyDeleteIt is so good that you are trying to find humor during morning sickness. I experienced it too, and had no idea how bad it was going to be. Through that time I learned the same things as you. My house didn't fall apart even though I didn't thoroughly clean for almost 2 months! My husband made sure to clean the toilet, sweep, and vacuum, and I learned that I had to be okay with that! Visiting from Manic Mondays. :)
ReplyDeleteI wish I could have found some humor or lightness during my first trimester. They're oh so hard for me and I marvel at your ability to do so. I will so, everything on your list is also exactly what I learned this time since I'm home and have Baby Boy already :)
ReplyDeleteSuch vulnerability and honesty here! I love it and am encouraged by all the things you're learning in this season. It's not fun to hear that we're not "indispensable" but it's a sweet humbling lesson that you'er brave to admit. Wishing you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy and your littles!
ReplyDeleteI was miserably sick too, but I wasn't smart enough to figure out why I was so sick, or what God was trying to teach me. Great post, although I am too old to have another, I will use your example for other situations. Thanks and best of luck and congrats!
ReplyDeleteDefinitely feel you on the asking for help thing.. I hate to put someone out, but sometimes you just ::need:: help!
ReplyDeleteBless your heart! I'm sorry you were so sick but it sounds like your hubby is super sweet to you! Thanks for sharing at Waiting on...Wednesday! Hope to see you back tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteHolly @ www.iwillservewhileiwait.blogspot.com
I am so there right now - pregnancy number four is making me WAY sicker than I've ever been, and I have three munchkins basically running feral while I try to get out of bed! And you're totally right, everything will still be standing in a few weeks when it passes!
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